A Mum Should Be .....

It's been almost 2 years since my last post...Ooo, am I that busy? The answer is "Yes".

Maura Dianka was born on 20th January 2010 at Eka Hospital BSD at 7.29 a.m trough the caesarean. Thanks to Dr Wiku Andonotopo, SpOG..you're the best obgyn, a combination of good skill and good heart :)

Since that day, my life is never same again.....totally changed. Now I am a mum, and what people have said that how busy being a mother is definitely true... I remember the first hard week, struggling the pain, breastfeeding every 2 hour, family & friends visit every time ( I was very happy, really, having friends n family who love and care about me n the baby, but sometime I just want a long time to sleep :).

The problems continue when I started to work after 3 month unpaid leave. Hunting a nanny is a very exhausted  & time consuming things. But I was lucky, because I have part time job. My music class just started at 3 p.m everyday, so I had more time to take care my baby in the morning. Since I commit to breastfeed my baby exclusively until she's 2 years old, I should pump my breast every 2 hours.. So the Medela Mini Electric is always in my bag. The hardest thing is when I have a music entertainment job on weekend. From 3 p.m to 11 p.m, I should manage my time during sound checking and rehearsal, to go the toilet for pumping my breast. I was lucky if the wedding was held in the 5-star hotel. They have sofa in the toilet, so I can pump comfortably. I was unlucky if the place had only toilet cubicle, so I could hear people grunting behind the door, asking what is this woman doing inside (with an awkward pump sound)...

November 2010 we've decided to take an offering, being a full time employee. Since then, I have to depend on the nanny full day. I just meet my baby after working hour, but Thank God, I still can breastfeed my baby, even only in the morning and night before sleeping time. So I still have that bonding. Sometime I am very sad when I looked at my baby expression while we were leaving her. I know, thousand moms feel the same.

The nanny problems also come and go, and I know it's a never ending story....

Sometime the problems make me think again about part time job... it's a dilemma....

So, what a mum should be..... ?

Mum-to-be

What is the difference between a single and married person?
I found out there aren't big differences, particularly you've known your mate for years.
Just a little adaptation and understanding each other, you'll get used to the spouse's presence around you everyday..

Now I should face facts that our marriage life will not be the same anymore.
God's miracle is growing in my womb, from a micron size sperm and ovum to a three thousand grams flesh as our miniature.

My eyes  suddenly got wet when I first saw her figure on the USG screen,
My tummy get asymmetrical shape when she moves her hands or legs in the amnion,
My sleep position is moved every 30 minutes because of the burden I carried,
My belly will be looked different because of white lines we called "stretch-mark",
My life will not be the same again, because of you, my baby, my flesh and my blood, will bring happiness and cheer to this family...


I love you from the first time I know you're inside me...
See you next month baby :)

My ordinary day

Almost one year I've left this page, because I think I don't have amazing stories to share about..
I'm not kinda person who likes writing, sharing and arranging documentation.
I've tried to make some documentation about my last trip, but I've just finished 1 page only.
I like to memorize all wonderful and bad memories in my own mind, and I don't think it's important to make a note or pic about something that happened in one day and you'll forget on the other day...Yeah, that's my life...ordinary life routine hardly ever varied.

Wake up at 9 or 10 a.m daily (oops...and I can extend until 11 a.m), go to the toilet, drink tomato juice, bean porridge, milk with choco-crunch or toasted bread with chocolate / cheese.
I eat another food for breakfast rarely, except my mother-in-law comes and brings some food like noodles, cakes or nasi uduk.
After that I take a bath, and go to our shop for dropping my hubby off (except he has a meeting or he's unwilling to go there, so let our two employees handle the shop for that day).
Then I drive back home, take a lunch while watching TV (mostly culinary or news program) and preparing my bags. Leaving home around 1 p.m, start music class about 2 p.m and going home about 7 p.m. Pick up my hubby, and arriving home about 8-9 p.m depends on the traffic.
Take a dinner about 9 p.m (we thank God for the catering's good menu today and grumbling for the tedious one), and then take a bath about 10-12 p.m (my Mum always remind me of rheumatism!)
Watching television / DVD, reading a novel, check mail for a while or manage the shop's budget report are most activities I spent during 11 p.m-1 a.m......before go to bed about 2 a.m.

Sometimes I'm wondering about my household life....is it so simple or so boring? We always think about what food we should eat tomorrow at the same time we take a dinner...like a never ending story...We start sleep while most people prepare to wake up, and wake up when most people are already on their office desk...
A little difference happened on the weekend : go to the church, join the family or friend gathering or meeting with clients or do our job as a wedding entertainment group..

Our life is so simple...maybe some people think our life is so unvaried and uninspiring but some people think we're so lucky with no office-hour schedule and long-hour sleep :)

New born baby

Oops...judul di atas bukan berarti gw baru punya bayi (walau sebenernya ampir tiap org yg ketemu nanyain kpn gw bakal punya baby? udah isi blm? de el el). Yah, mungkin itu pertanyaan klise buat org yg udah married..

New born baby yg dimaksud tuh baby2 temen2 gw yg baru lahir...
Klo kt liat FS 4 thn yg lalu, rata2 primary photo nya temen2 tuh foto wisudaan...
Trus klo kt liat lg trend di FS 2 thn ini, rata2 pada pasang foto wedding, either prewed ato foto pake wedding gown.
Nah, 1 thn terakhir ini, foto2 di FS ato facebook temen2 gw didominasi sama foto2 baby...
Ada yg foto studio, ada yg lg dipeluk2 ortu nya, ada yg lagi difoto zoom in sampe keliatan kepalanya doank..pokonya intinya temen2 gw yg ud jd ortu pasti bangga bgt sama baby nya ...

Balik lagi ke gw....isi FS n facebook gw paling banyak foto wedding n foto anak anjing...
apa itu berarti gw jg bangga sama puppies2 gw (yg skrg ud ga gw miliki lg..hiks)?
Ato itu berarti krn gw blm punya baby beneran, jd foto puppy aja yg dipasang? Apa gw bakal majangin foto baby di FS klo dia udah lahir?? Apa gw bakal ikutan tren itu jg buat segera masang foto baby?

Sebenernya balik lagi ke intinya adalah..."Udah siapkah gw punya baby?"
Gw selalu bingung klo dikasih pertanyaan spt itu...
Jd gw buat aja daftarnya (spt yg suka dibuat Becky Bloomwood) :

Positive side
- punya "mainan" n "kerjaan" baru yg udah pasti seru
- bisa lihat mahluk mungil yg kadang2 mirip gw, kadang2 mirip suami..lucu ngebayanginnya
- ngerasain hamil n melahirkan yg katanya "luar biasa"
- bisa ngasih cucu sama ortu
- bisa belanja Esprit Kids, Guess Kids, Zara Kids..(udah mulai kaya Becky)
- bisa masang foto baby di FS (oopps?? )
- etc..

Negative side
- ngeri ngebayangin ngelahirin..(normal n caesar sama2 ngeri)
- gak bisa kebluk lagi krn pagi2 harus ngasih susu n beresin pup-nya
- bergadang semaleman krn baby nangis terus
- panik cari dokter kalo baby nya sakit
- udah ga bisa hang out seenaknya lagi
- jatah shopping kepotong buat susu, pampers, vitamin, obat, makanan, baju, mainan bayi
- nabung extra buat sekolahnya & les nya
- bayar gaji baby sitter (ampir 2x salary pembantu biasa)
- jadi genduuut krn hamil
- etc

Kayanya malah tambah bingung bikin daftar gituan...

PS : biarlah Tuhan yg atur jalan hidupku...termasuk kpn gw dipercaya jd seorang "mama"

The Wedding Day

Finally we've made a big decision in our life....
to vow our everlasting love in the church,
to walk through the aisle & see the people smile to us,
to be a one-day king & queen,
to be a beautiful bride wearing an amazing gown.

but there're just things on the wedding day, the party day,
the celebration day,
the most important are the days after "the day",
when we have to live together with a lot of understanding,
not enough just saying "i love you"..
when we have to compromise in many things,
from big to little ones,
when we have to struggle together in funding our family,
when we have to share our bed,
when we have to keep our vow on our wedding day,
to be together in good dan bad times...

there're still a lot of homework for our new life,
makes so tired if we think about them,
but at least we can smile today,
because we have won a part of our journey of love....

From 10th September 2000
To 10th February 2007

Happy Wedding Day

dedicated for my husband Didi with love...